Why I will never be an Autistic “Warrior Mom”

Originally posted on Sonnolenta... A Neurodivergent Journey:

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My Son just turned twelve, and is currently going through the diagnostic process for Autism/ADHD and Sensory Processing Disorder. We’ve just started this journey. Having a light shining onto his differences has made me appreciate how unique he is even more. I’m not a “warrior mom”. I don’t want to “kick autism’s ass”. Autism is not a disease. It’s not something that I can remove from my Son like some sort of hackneyed exorcism. I am tired of the pathologization of Autism.

I don’t want to change him, fix him, or force him to be “normal”, and I refuse to teach him that he has to do this in order to be…

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Aspergirls and Emotions – why she is always misunderstood as being cold and aloof

Originally posted on Naming The Stars:

It is a common misconception that Aspergirls do not feel any emotions. I dispute that myth completely and utterly. Aspergirls are actually the most sensitive, loving and caring creatures ever to walk this planet. So how is it that we constantly get so badly misconstrued as being cold, aloof, stand-offish and heartless?

Firstly, we struggle to express ourselves, particularly verbally. We may have a raging torrent of sadness inside us when we see someone hurting. We may have hearts filled with joy when we see someone overwhelmed with happiness. We may feel irrational anger when someone we care about is wronged. But can we put any of that into words? Can we boot. As a result, we are seen as heartless, emotionless and as though we feel we are above everything else, when really we are shouting our feelings deep inside our heart – it is just that other people…

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HOW AUTISM BECAME A WINDOW TO THE SOUL

seventhvoice:

This is a very interesting read.

Originally posted on Pandaemonium:

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Gregory Hollin is a researcher at Nottingham University’s Institute for Science and Society whose work explores changing perceptions of autism, both scientific and cultural. He recently wrote a superb essay for the anthropology website Somatosphere which looked at the relationship between the rise of autism as a cultural phenomenon and changing scientific conceptions of human nature and of the ‘social’, and at how these changes have led to the view of ‘the social hole in autism’ as ‘a window to the soul’. My thanks to Greg, and to Somatosphere, for allowing me to republishing the essay on Pandaemonium.


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Gregory Hollin
Autism, sociality and human nature

There are, I believe, a few reasons to suppose that autism is a particularly fascinating area to be studying at the moment. What are those reasons? Firstly, prevalence rates of autism have soared in recent decades, from 1:2,500 in 1978 to around…

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4 Clues You Are A Woman With Asperger’s

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What clues did you have?

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

Ninety percent of Asperger diagnoses are for boys. Not because girls don’t have Asperger’s, but because it’s so much harder to identify in girls that they go largely undiagnosed. I didn’t know I have Asperger’s until my son was diagnosed.

Asperger’s is a developmental disorder–often associated with Silicon Valley as the “Geek Syndrome“–that’s almost impossible to self-identify because central to the dysfunction is very poor social skills. But poor social skills means that you are missing social cues which means that you don’t know you’re missing social cues. Everyone in the room wants you to shut up and you don’t know it.

More importantly, people with Asperger’s often never gain the soft skills so important for workplace success. Aspergers comes with a high risk of depression, homeslessness and suicide. So identifying it in girls is important.

People can identify boys with Asperger’s because…

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How Society Is A Victim to What It Does Not Understand

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“While society is actively obsessed with treating the mental illness part of a social disorder which is the secondary condition that the person is leaving with it is also completely ignoring the primary condition which is the social disorder itself that causes the mental illness.

Simply put, society continues to be victimized by what it cannot understand. The question is “how do we help society understand?”

Originally posted on Travis Breeding:

Time and time again we see society effected by a tragedy like the one in Santa Barbara or the one at Sandy Hook Elementary.  While there are victims and families of victims who are directly effected by these senseless and unnecessary tragedies there also also the rest of us who are out here living in society who in a way are indirect victims of something that our brains are unaware of.

Our brains are unaware of what we are being traumatized and victimized by because for most of us this part of the brain is a natural thing that we use each day.  We use it with little to no effort at all and do not even think about what it might be like to not use it.

For a few people in society this part of the brain is not intact.  This causes a social disorder. There are many…

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Aspergers is…

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Sharing your words….

Originally posted on autisticlemonade:

Awash in emotions that encompass my being

Yet my blank stare leaves the masses unseeing

Trying to be seen, when I clearly see

That’s what Aspergers is to me

Telling the contents of my heart to a lover

Trying to express that there will be no other

If I could say it with my eyes, I’d pay any fee

That’s what Aspergers is to me

Expressing to my family the depths of my love

They should know that there is no one above

But expressions of love are too grand to be

That’s what Aspergers is to me

Strangers to companions, it’s so hard to connect

When words of friendship don’t come out correct

Paths of words lost, just let me be free

That’s what Aspergers is to me

Aspergers is loneliness

Aspergers is pain

Aspergers is the feeling of going insane

Emotions criss-crossing, like the limbs of a tree

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Puppet strings…

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Sharing your words…….

Originally posted on autisticlemonade:

Tear me apart, and rebuild me whole

Give me expressions, emotions, a sense of control

Make me a real boy, free of puppet strings

So I can do all of the plain people things

Cavort with companions, enjoy a meal

Feel the range of emotions that I’m meant to feel

Embrace my enemy, embrace my friend

Embrace myself, and then do it again

Smile once genuinely from the heart

Place up my barriers, tear them apart

Love every person as if they were myself

Then take all that love and bathe in the wealth

Yet no man can remake me, there is no cure

I’m stuck in this body, of that much I’m sure

Cursed to be the expressionless boy

Faking emotions like a doll or a toy

Trapped in the bubble of lonely space

Comforted by no friend or lovers embrace

So ridden with guilt, wrapped in depression

My…

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