Simple Truth or Twisted Logic?

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This supposedly simple truth is one that I’m not at all sure I agree with.

No matter how logical statements like these first appear to be, there’s always something about them that pulls at that questioning part inside of me.

The part that makes me wonder whether or not we should accept statements like these too easily, and if we do accept them, what is it exactly that we are buying into when we do?

Saying that one shouldn’t expect a lion not to eat a person just because a person wouldn’t eat a lion, which is indeed a true statement, is one thing, but to then use this truth as a justification for saying that we shouldn’t expect the world, (which really means the people in it as the world itself is an inanimate object), to treat us fairly just because we treat others fairly, is another issue entirely.

After all, people are not lions….. and now that we’ve established that fact……

Just why is it again that we’re not to expect others to treat us fairly if we do the same to them?

Oh that’s right, it’s because being preyed upon, ripped off, taken advantage of, lied too, stolen from, beaten up or maimed in some way by others in life, is supposedly all part of the natural order of things, therefore we should just accept and expect it.

Well it may be the natural order of things for lion’s to behave in this way, but once again, people are not lions and I’m still far from convinced that behaving like a wild animal, in any way, should constitute what’s considered to be the natural order of behavior for human beings.

I don’t truly think that many people would, upon rational reflection, agree to the statement that we should all expect to be preyed upon by others.

Nor accept the idea that being nice to others automatically  means that we deserve to become the victims of human predators.

Especially considering that the validation of such ideas are based on little more than the observation that lions in the wild, hunt to survive.

Or perhaps I’m just being foolish.

What do you think?

 

When the benefits of the many outweigh the good of the few….

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These days, those who are considered the most successful in life, are also those who hold the dual abilities of being able to commit the most atrocious of actions whilst  instantly providing themselves with a sense of justification for doing so.

If  you look at those who have made it to the top of their fields, regardless of whether or not those fields are considered prestigious or dubious in nature,  very few of them, if any, could honestly claim to have never once used, abused or in any other way taken advantage of another, in order to get there.

Given that our society consistently tells us that it’s okay to lie, cheat or steal the pants off a business competitor if it better suits our own purposes to do so, it’s little wonder that this same message has begun to transfer over into everyday life.

Where often all it takes to make it okay to rip off strangers, friends, or even family, is the ability to convince yourself that your needs outweigh the needs of those you are taking advantage.

We’ve all heard of the stories of con men that convince their own elderly parents, without any remorse what so ever, to invest in their bogus business schemes, for no reason other than to enable them to get their hands on the family’s money sooner, rather later.

Or the drug addicts who think nothing of stealing from their friends, family or complete strangers in order to feed a habit which also provides them with a built-in sense of justification in that their “immediate needs” are more important than the needs of whomever they’re stealing from.

The saying that “all is fair in love and war” appears to have become the justification for almost any form of malevolent behaviour that one can think of.

This used to be a saying that was predominantly  applied to the dubious behaviours of those in the business world.

Where many of those in positions of power have been known to do things such as releasing harmful products, most notably pharmaceuticals, onto the worldwide market , in the belief that their products potential to cause harm were vastly outweighed by their products potential to create profits.

In fact if we look back at the history of medical developments, the vast majority of the work that has been carried out in order to create our current day medical break throughs, have been premised on the justification that the potential benefits of the many out weigh the suffering of the few, (upon whom early medical experiments were conducted on).

This type of moral trade-off, or justification, is also the moral device that provides many with the ability to experiment on animals.

So as a breed of beings we do indeed seem to have a propensity for believing that our actions, no matter how morally horrific they may be, are still somehow okay if they can be viewed as justifiable in any way, shape of misbegotten form.

This leads me to wonder just how potent a device for excusing bad behaviour justification has become in our own lives.

For instance, if you found a wallet in the street  with a few hundred dollars in it two days before Christmas, would you hand it in to the police, or would you choose instead to believe that the universe had provided you with an unexpected means of being able to afford those extra little Christmas treats you’ve been longing to buy for those you love?

Or what if your family were severely financially struggling at the time?

What if keeping the wallet meant the difference between you family having power and heat on Christmas day or not?

Would keeping the wallet under those circumstances be justifiable?

Dilemmas like this, on a small-scale, show just how untenable the concept of justification can become as a mode for defining the rightness or wrongness of our actions.

We all know that handing the wallet in, under most conventional circumstances, would be considered the morally right thing to do…. But….. My question is this…….

‘Can the keeping of the wallet any longer be viewed as the only morally right thing to do if one can justify doing otherwise?’

And if all it takes is a sense of justification to overthrow those once clear lines of delineation between right and wrong actions, then how much longer will it be before we lose all concept of a collective sense of right and wrong all together?

Differences between Aspergers and Autism -‘fruit salads’?


In one of my books, The Jumbled Jigsaw, I presented a range of conditions commonly collectively occurring in those with autism and Aspergers. I was asked about the differences between an Aspergers (AS) ‘fruit salad’ and an Autism ‘fruit salad’. As an autism consultant since 1996 and having worked with over 1000 people diagnosed on the autism spectrum there are areas that overlap, areas where similar can easily be mistaken for same, and areas that are commonly quite different. Some with AS can present far more autistically in childhood but function very successfully in adulthood. Some with Autism can have abilities and tendencies commonly found in Aspies and some will grow up to function far more successfully than they could in childhood but, nevertheless, when together with adults with Aspergers they each notice that the differences may commonly outweigh the similarities. Generally the more common differences are:

ASPERGERS
Originally called ‘Autistic Psychopathy‘(now outdated)
commonly not diagnosed until mid, even late childhood.
lesser degrees of gut, immune, metabolic disorders, epilepsy and genetic anomalies impacting health systems
dyspraxia
mood, anxiety, compulsive disorders commonly onset from late childhood/teens/early adulthood as a result of bullying, secondary to social skills problems, secondary to progressive self isolation and lack of interpersonal challenge/involvement/occupation.
scotopic sensitivity/light sensitivity more than simultagnosia
most have social emotional agnosia & around 30% have faceblindness but usually not due to simultagnosia
literal but not meaning deaf
social communication impairments, sometimes selective mutism secondary to Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD)
sensory hypersensitivities more than sensory perceptual disorders
higher IQ scores due to less impaired visual-verbal processing
tendency toward Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD), Schizoid rather than Schizotypal Personality Disorder and commonly Dependent Personality Disorder to some level.
higher tendency to AvPD rather than Exposure Anxiety
Alexithymia is common
ADHD common co-occurance but may be less marked than in those with autism.

AUTISM
Once known as Childhood Psychosis (now outdated)
generally there is always some diagnosis before age 3 (those born before 1980 were still usually diagnosed before age 3, although commonly with now outdated terms like ‘psychotic children’, ‘disturbed’, ‘mentally retarded’, ‘brain damaged’.
higher degrees and severity of gut, immune, metabolic disorders, epilepsy and genetic anomalies impacting health systems
mood, anxiety, compulsive disorders commonly observed since infancy
commonly amazing balance but commonly hypotonia
simultagnosia/meaning blindness rather than just scotopic sensitivity
verbal agnosia/meaning deafness
verbal communication impairments (aphasia, oral dyspraxia, verbal agnosia and associated echolalia and commonly secondary Selective Mutism)
lower IQ scores associated with higher severity of LD/Dyslexia/agnosias
tendency toward OCD/Tourette’s, also higher rate of Schizotypal PD, DPD is common and tends to be more severe
higher tendency to Exposure Anxiety more than AvPD
higher tendency toward dissociative states (dissociation, derealisation, depersonalization)
poetry by those with autism as opposed to AS commonly indicates those with autism can have high levels of introspection, insight
ADHD extremely common co-occurrence

This post is from Donna Williams’ Blog

Congratulations on making it this far down the post.

Okay so now here’s my bit.

It’s question and answer time for you all once again because as we all know, inquiring minds simply always want to know more.

So apart from Donna’s list, what do you think are the key differences between Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism?

Do you think they’re aren’t any major differences at all?

Or do you think there are many?

Are you in favor of doing away with the term Asperger’s Syndrome and replacing it with  High Functioning Autism instead?

Do you think mixing the two, up until now, distinctly different ways of  understanding the needs of those on the Autism spectrum will help or hinder public awareness and understandings of Autism?

Would love to hear  your views on this.

Fracturing the time, space, continuum while watching TV shows

Not to mention that you’ve  probably engaged in some form of invisible particle piracy.

And  you’ve quite likely  fractured the time, space, continuum by doing so.

TV is just not meant to watched this way.

Isn’t i it?

What would River say???????

Okay, Okay, I admit it,

I am TV show junkie.
I just can’t seem to help it.
Well actually, technically speaking, the above statement is entirely untrue,
I can help it,
I just don’t want too.
I love falling into a good TV show.
Especially when I find one I like and then discover that there’s like 5 more series of it that I haven’t seen yet.
Talk about feeling like you’ve won lotto!!!!!

I know you will probably think I’m wrong but I’d rather see men marching against violence towards women than in celebration of past wars.

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I’d rather see men marching,

Against violence towards women,

Than see them celebrating,

Openly,

Their male comrades,

Who’ve either fought,

Or fallen,

During our nations,

Past wars.

Every year on Anzac Day,

We are reminded,

To always show our respect,

For those who have gone before us,

Who have given their lives,

For our benefits,

But what about those who are still falling before us?

Whose lives aren’t being given willingly,

For some greater noble cause,

But instead are being stolen,

Within our own domestic war?

Isn’t it time we  see fit to dedicate,

The same amount of national space,

To the true survivors,

Of the on-going war,

Against domestic violence?

A war that remains,

Too silently,

Unacknowledged,

A war whose victims are too often,

Left defenseless,

By the very same governments,

Who foster,

Such National pride,

For its soldiers,

While it lets its women die.

Least we forget,

The many women who have fallen,

To the senseless acts,

Committed within domestic violence.

 

Get Your Wheels Off My Space…Disability Parking….. Why aren’t the rules being enforced when it comes to disabled parking spaces?

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The lack of awareness and social courtesy surrounding the use of disabled parking has long been a bug bare of mine.

It’s a problem that I used to  routinely experience when either dropping my son off or picking him up from college.

My son has autism along with several other health issues which affect his muscle tone, his joints and his vision. He finds it incredibly difficult to walk for any distance or on uneven surfaces, hills or inclines and his muscles fatigue quickly causing him pain that can last for hours as a result.

His vision difficulties make navigating high traffic environments, such as parking lots, extremely dangerous for him as he can not judge how close he is to a car nor how fast it is moving.

In short, we have a disability parking permit for several very good reasons.

Yet despite this, we constantly find that we are unable to use most of the spaces allocated for disability parking because they are always filled with vehicles and drivers that shouldn’t be using them.

There are two disabled parking spaces located side by side in the top car park closest to the college’s main entrance but they are always filled with cars that do not have permits to use them.

Whilst I understand that it may be convenient for parents of non-disabled children to park themselves there and wait for their darlings to wander out of class, it’s still not appropriate nor even legal for them to do so.

Yet they continue taking up those spaces and no one at the college seems prepared to do anything about it.

In reality I’m sure all it would take would be one teacher or admin person standing  in front of the spaces telling people to move on if they don’t have a permit to fix the problem.

However no one at the college seems to feel that it’s in their job description to ensure the safety of disabled students within the car park.

Fed up with it all I remember glaring at a woman one day as I walked past her on my way to collecting my son from his classroom , while she sat in her car, parked in a disability parking space without a permit and stared back at me.

10 minutes later as I emerged from the college entrance with my son leaning on my arm and clearly having trouble walking, the woman who was still parked where she shouldn’t have been,  mouthed the word “sorry” to me and quickly looked away.

At least she apparently felt some modicum of guilt over her actions and whilst sorry may be a start, it didn’t help either my son or I that day as we struggled a good 15 meters further than we should have had too, just to reach the car.

To this day, those disability spaces are always filled with cars that shouldn’t be there.

Fortunately for my son, I discovered a disability parking space much further down in the college’s lower car park that is a walkable distance for him at the rear of the building.

Though it still annoys me that we have to enter and exit from the rear of the building like servants or those who shall remain unseen as it was  in the old days.

This problem is by no means reserved to school environments.

It’s everywhere.

Shopping center’s, public streets, pay and display car parks, even local sporting clubs.

Last week, while picking up my daughter from her trampolining lesson at the Police and Citizens Youth Club (PCYC)  with my son, I was forced to park down in the over flow car park, which is quite a distance away from the front doors of the building, all because a big sparkly new utility truck had taken up the one and only disabled parking space allocated to the entire parking lot.

Having to walk up an unpaved hill from the over flow car park to the front doors of the building was quite an effort for my son.  ( And no, before anyone goes there,  there is absolutely no way I’d even consider leaving him alone in a car surrounded by the darkness of an unlit and unfamiliar car park).

Once inside the doors I approached the receptionist and asked her if the spot out the front of the building was the only disabled car space they had.  She replied that it was so I then drew her attention to the fact that it was being used by a new utility truck that did not have a disability parking permit, where as we, on the other hand who do hold a disability parking permit were forced to park in the overflow car park and walk up.

She  apologized and said  “unfortunately it happens all the time.”

I was gob smacked by this response for two reasons, firstly the venue was the Police and Citizens Youth Club and secondly the disability parking spot could be clearly seen  from the reception desk.  Which means that the staff there, who are mainly either retired or current police officers volunteering their time, could see whether or not any vehicle parked there had the required disability permit.

So clearly the staff there  had decided to ignore the validity of the purpose of that parking space and turn a blind eye to those abusing it.

” Well this is the PCYC so I’m surprised that no one has done anything about it” I replied.

The receptionist, who was also wearing a police uniform I might add, then said, ” Yes we probably should do something about it. I’ll write a note and leave it on the car warning the owner of the car not to park there again. I think I know who it is anyway”.

What? A police officer opting for writing a warning note instead of fining the person concerned?

Once again I was gob smacked.

If this had happened on a street the offender would (or should) be fined. So why was this police officer opting for only leaving a note? Sure she might have officially been off duty but she could have called and had an on duty police officer issue an on the spot fine.

I don’t know about anyone else but I don’t get a warning note if my parking meter runs of out of money.

No I get a fine and an expired parking meter is a much smaller offense than illegally taking up a disabled parking space.

So why wasn’t this person getting a fine for abusing a disabled parking space instead of a polite note asking them not to do it again?

Still chewing on the irony of it all my son and I went and watched the last 15 minutes of my daughters class.

As we headed for the front door I could see the utility still parked there with piece of A4 paper stuck under its windscreen wiper.

I stopped at the car and read what she’d written on the paper.

“Please don’t park here again unless you have a disability permit”

Not much of a warning if you ask me.

So just what is it about disability parking spaces that makes those who don’t need them so apt to abusing them?

Is it simply that we live in a society whose cultural attitudes towards disability somehow makes it seem Okay for people to take advantage of our parking spaces?

Is it because our parking spaces are  usually located as close as possible to whatever building they’ve been allocated too and so therefore they’re simply too convenient not to abuse?

Or is it because no one seems interested in actually taking the proper actions in fining those who abuse them?

How can we get the message out there to others that it’s not Okay to take up a disability parking space just because it’s convenient or you think you can get away with it?