Notes on Deconstructing Privilege


This is a fantastic post exploring what privilege is, how it is accrued and what it brings with it. I agree with it’s writer that we all have to take our turn at disrupting the train of privilege so that we might lessen the perpetual gap between the ‘heard’ and the ‘unheard’ in our society.

Originally posted on Cellar Door:

What is Privilege?

Access to information, social networks, time and money. Access to human and civil rights, legal protection and safety. This access can vary from slight to enormous.

Being seen as an individual, even if our group status strongly influences some factor about us. Having our experiences be validated as “authentic, normal or natural” by the media, the mainstream narrative and popular discourse.

Having privilege does not (necessarily) mean you are a terrible, oppressive person. It does however, mean that you have a stake in allowing your own privileged system of oppression to continue — whether that system is racism, classism, casteism, transphobia, homophobia, communalism, colonialism, islamophobia, ableism, anti-immigrant, anti-femininity, fat-phobia, anti-sex work or sexism — you gain from its continuing existence and power.

Having privilege does not mean having no pain in life. We all struggle, we all suffer. However privilege ensures a soft, foamy surface when we do…

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Six-Packs, Back-Packs & Matching Nail Polish

My 12 year old daughter has been mocking me all weekend over my penchant for liking Seal as a judge on the Australian version of “The Voice”.

Her incredulity over his popularity was heightened after reading an article in a magazine which stated that Seal was indeed the most popular judge on the show. She  tossed the magazine aside and said “I just don’t get it mum. He’s not that hot and what’s with the strange marks on his face?”

I guess to a 12 year old girl, seeing men who don’t fit into the conventional understandings of what her generation considers ‘hot,’ poses one of those eternal conundrums of youth. So I tried t explain to her that back in the day Seal had a stunning physique. She looked at me with serious concern for my sanity radiating from her eyes.

“He did” I protested. “He was so ripped he had six packs”.

“Don’t you mean a six pack?” She laughed. “Or are you going to try and tell me had more than one?”

Never one to be beaten I replied “Well as a matter of fact he was so fit he even had a six pack on his back too.”

She smirked at me and laughingly said ” Yeah Seal with a backpack…. Now I can buy that…. Hope he had matching finger nail polish  to go with that too!”

Yes dear friends, it was at that point that I admitted defeat and surrendered myself to the reality of our increasingly present generation gap.


Who are your favourite Aspie characters on TV and why?

List of The Big Bang Theory episodes (season 1)

I’ve become just a little bit fascinated over the last few years with the rise in the number of TV shows portraying Asperger’s Syndrome and the way they are going about it. Sometimes they get it oh so right and sometimes they get it oh so wrong. So who are your favourite Aspie TV characters and which shows do you think are getting it right and why?

My pick of the characters so far are:

Isles off Rizzoli & Isles – love that the character has both extreme logic and an extreme sense of fashion plus she’s a strong independent woman.

Temperance Brennon  from Bones – Once again strong independent  logical female characters get me every single time. I also think part of the charm of her character can be found in the gentle acknowledgment of her propensity toward logic at the expense of emotion that others show her in their own unique ways.

Adrian Monk from the Monk series – Love his portrayal of the more obsessive qualities and he makes me laugh.

Doc Martin- Though I’m not all together sure the character is meant to be understood as an Aspie but never-the- less I enjoy the way he ignores social niceties and his complete and at times willful inability to pick up on things such as body language.

Of course Max on Parenthood – Simply because I can so relate to some aspects of his character and the broader parenting dynamic. Loved the episode where Max’s parents went to visit another  Aspie family for the first time. If you’ve seen it then you’ll know what I mean.

There must be other shows out there that I’m missing out on….. The Big Bang theory springs to mind and yes I would love to watch it but for some odd reason my son is extremely adverse to  ‘Sheldon’s’ character……. Hmmmmmm…….. Go figure……..