It’s my blog Anniversary so I’m going to celebrate by praising you……….

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Today my blog turns one!

Which means, you’ve all been putting up with my intrusion into the reams of WordPress and muddling through with my mix of words, thoughts and opinions for one whole year.

Dear, kind, patient you.

So today, instead of celebrating me, I’m going to celebrate you.

That’s right you!

Starting with a big and heart-felt hurrah for the first people to ever follow my blog;

http://fivereflections.wordpresss.com

http://mesayah.wordpress.com

http://catastraspie.wordpress.com

http://truelovejunkie.wordpress.com

http://myraysoflight.wordpress.com

http://creativeworksbyamy.wordpress.com

http://aslankanshaw.wordpress.com

http://thespiderframmanager.wordpress.com

http://silverpoetry.worpress.com

http://emcmemoir.worpress.com

And last, but by no means certainly not least, the amazing Sharmishtha Basu at http://coloursandwordswaltz.wordpress.com and Missus Tribble at http://rosewinelover.wordpress.com.

To these lovely bloggers, whose early comments let me know that I wasn’t just lost and alone, floating aimlessly adrift in a sea of blogs, but instead being read and understood, I say thank you.

I’d also like to propose a big  birthday toast to the many wonderful bloggers whose words I’ve been following regularly since day dot for my weekly dose of inspiration. So here they are;

http://dpwoman.wordpress.com

http://arhythmrunsthroughit.wordpress.com

http://midnighthues.wordpress.com

http://supertuksmama.wordpress.com

http://kiramoorescloset.wordpress.com

http://soumyav.wordpress.com

http://mandysmutterings.wordpress.com

http://paulaacton.wordpress.com

http://mafiahairdresser.wordpress.com

http://justanothermanicmommy.wordpress.com

http://girlwithpen1118.wordpress.com

http://violetsdiary.wordpress.com

http://butimbeautiful.wordpress.com

http://momwithhearingloss.wordpress.com

http://unispiredrevolution.wordpress.com

http://pendryw.wordpress.com

http://thoughtsfromtheoutdoors.wordpress.com

http://boomiebol.wordpress.com

http://carlarenee45.wordpress.com

Some of these bloggers are poets, some deep thinkers, some are fellow mother’s embarking on their own journey’s but all of them, without doubt, have that happy knack for transforming their observational skills into wonderfully insightful and at times humorous blogs.

Speaking of talented bloggers, I’d also like to give a special shout out to those bloggers, whose moments of brilliance I’ve only discovered more recently.

http://shinnypebbles.wordpress.com

http://sharingmemyselfandi.wordpress.com

http://postcardsfromtheedgeofthespectrum.wordpress.com

http://selasiebulmo.wordpress.com

http://hopethehappyhugger.wordpress.com

http://lovingmartians.com

http://silentlyheardonce.wordpress.com

http://moonbeammcqueen.wordpress.com

http://deknarf.wordpress.com

http://dragoneystory.wordpress.com

http://kattermonran.wordpress.com

http://anautismdad.wordpress.com

http://justspokenthoughts.wordpress.com

http://stuffitellmysister.wordpress.com

http://creativeliz.wordpress.com

http://didiearnasmile.wordpress.com

http://coffeepoweredmom.wordpress.com

http://amoonfull.wordpress.com

http://myaspiefiles4444.wordpress.com

http://ladylovelyblogger.wordpress.com

http://mindretrofit7.wordpress.com/

http://ktjane69.wordpress.com

http://aspermums.wordpress.com

http://busymindthinking.com

http://stillwaterflyfishing.wordpress.com

http://insightspace.wordpress.com

http://dragnongirl0.wordpress.com

If you haven’t checked out any of these brilliant blog sites I would encourage you to.

Yes I know, I’m asking a lot of you and I am sorry that this list of amazing bloggers is so long but hey, it’s my party,  so I figure I may as well take this chance to praise who I want too.

And of course last but not least, I’d like to say a big thank you to WordPress for hosting me.

Cheers and happy blogging to you all.

Freshly Pressed

Would you like to know how to write a blog article worthy of being Freshly Pressed on Word Press?

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Well here’s a little secret, so would I.  So I’ve done a little bit of research and apparently getting the Golden Nod all starts with receiving an e-mail  in your in box, telling you that your words of wisdom have been blessed by the Gods at Freshly Pressed.

Here’s a list of articles written by those who have been so blessed, detailing  what they did  and how it all happened for them.

Related articles

¡Frescamente espichada! Mejor dicho, Freshly Pressed! (vocabat.com)

Painting on the Street (sketchesandjottings.wordpress.com)

Badly Messed? or Freshly Pressed? (tryingtowriteit.com)

Coming Out as a Blogger (via Freshly Pressed) (ridingbitchblog.com)

Journey into Awesome Has Been Featured on Freshly Pressed! (journeyintoawesome.wordpress.com)

Starve a Cold, Feed a Freshly Pressed Fever (lornasvoice.com)

The Night I Lost My Virginity (mancakestheblog.wordpress.com)

A Question of Pressing Importance (theoutliercollective.wordpress.com)

In the mean time, if you have any tips, resources or insider knowledge on how exactly to achieve this much coveted blogging feat, please feel free to share your secrets to success by letting us all know how to do it.

Falling Into the Words of Others……. The Benefits of Reading Blogs

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Sometime people ask me why I bother with blogging. After all they reason, “Isn’t caring for your son a full-time job in and of itself?  What with all the battles you go through just trying to get your son’s rights to have his abilities recognized and taken seriously by others, why on earth do you want to write about Autism? How do you even have the energy  to  write about anything?”

I must admit that some days, when the fights been particularly long and hard, and the shawl of defeat hangs itself across my shoulders like some desperately unwanted shroud that marks me out as a person who feels as shatteringly misunderstood and out-of-place in this world as the missing puzzle piece that has ironically become the universal symbol for Autism, I wonder why I bother blogging too.

But then I read the words of others and they enrich me in ways that help me pull myself back together and enable me to once again  begin to view life from a broader perspective.

A perspective that helps me replace my temporary and insular micro filter  of defeat  and instead enables me to attach a wider lens that lets me know that I am indeed part of a greater whole.

A lens that is in fact so wide that it incorporates all of the issues that are facing so many different people from more walks of life than there are colors in the rainbow.

Reading the words of others reminds me that life is like a pearl.

An organic composition that builds upon itself,

Layer by layer,

Feeding on past irritations,

Forming silently within the enclosed darkness,

That cements it into place.

And that it is only when the shell is opened up and those layers of irritation are revealed, that the pearl itself becomes transformed by the eyes of others, into a thing of beauty.

Blogging I think works in the same way. So regardless of whether or not the opening up of our shells brings either tears or joy, the mere act of making the effort to reveal ourselves, our lives and our stories, to the world, is an  achievement all in itself.

For some I know the process of blogging, of paring oneself back to bare bones to see who and what they are, of bring their true selves to the surface, is a painful one. For others it can be cathartic, light-hearted or even whimsical, but always, always without fail, regardless of what the topic may be or how it is presented, there are always pearls of wisdom to be found within the words of others.

Sometimes, I admit, I don’t find the pares straight away.

Sometimes it takes an event occurring within my own life to shake me and wake up to the memory of reading another’s words about a similar situation before I can understand the points I’d missed.

It is in these moments of missed recognition that I will go back and search through Word Press until I find the post I’m looking for. Often along the way I will find many, many more posts dealing with the same issues that I had previously and erroneously thought were not mine to deal with.

The more posts I read, the more pearls of wisdom I gather and the greater my own levels of awareness, understanding and compassion grows.

Some of your posts make me cry. Some make me smile. Others make my head nod up and down while reading along with the unspoken acknowledgment of a shared truth. Still others make me shake my head in exasperation.

Yet I have learned that regardless of whether or not I agree or disagree with a post, or whether it makes me laugh or cry, there is always some element of experience or knowledge that takes me out of myself, out of my life with Autism and expands my world view.

You make me aware that although all of our personal truths may indeed be different, they are all indeed truths and should be respected as such.

So I bear in mind, as I am reading your posts, that some of you may be speaking of truths that I have yet to learn and some of you may be speaking of personal truths that may never be my own. Just as my personal truths may never be yours to experience in real-time.

Yet regardless I appreciate the privilege of seeing so many different people, each living different lives, in so many different cities, with as many different faces,  telling their silent truths with words all across the globe.

Indeed this world that we all inhabit, our globe, is shaped like a pearl.

This is what makes me think now that wisdom can be found not only by looking deeply into the parts of us that hurt us the most, but  in the very act of opening up our shells and letting ourselves be exposed to the light cast by the minds of others.

For sometimes, it is only when being viewed through the words of others, that our own personal truths, our own pearls of wisdom, become finally apparent, even to ourselves.

This is why I love reading and falling into the words of others.

So thank you to each and every blogger whose words have allowed me to gain a new perspective and glimpse those pearls earned from your own hard-won wisdom.

 

Adding a Share Link to Tumblr

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Forgive me WordPress, for I have sinned.
I have wantonly wandered into the world of multidimensional blogging and am now confessing to the transgression of believing in the benevolence and the wisdom of  simultaneously engaging in more than just one cyber realm.
Please forgive me for my wordy trespasses as I attempt to combine both realms seamlessly.
Each with the other.
So as I  now say a big hello to the crew at Tumblr, I promise  all of you at WP that I shall continue on with you.
If for no other reason than to feed the deep seeded addiction  for reading wonderful blogs that  you  bestowed upon me from the very beginning.
Okay….. here we go…… Deep breath…….. pressing send to see if this link thingy is working………

Publishing A Novel on WordPress…..

I’m considering publishing the novel I’ve been working away at here on WordPress.

The question is of course; Is this a good idea?

What are the benefits and pitfalls of publishing an original work so openly?

I’ve read a few good blogs bestowing both the joys and the sorrows of engaging in on-line open publishing but as yet none have come right out and said, one way or the other, whether or not it’s worth doing.

On the up side, I suppose, there’s always the off-chance that someone will read it and enjoy it. That’s more than I can say for my other 3 novels, which remain to this day, securely secluded in the bottom of my draw.

On the down side, there’s the rather strong possibility that someone will read it, decide that  it’s absolute rubbish and tell me so.

Then of course, there’s the whole issue of copyright.

As we all know, nothing is considered either sacred nor secure, once published on the Internet.

Then again, issues of copyright would really only come into play if one really feels their work has a snowball’s chance in Hell of being published any other way.

In my case I’m so far from being convinced that my words are worth stealing it’s not that much of an issue for me.

So what are the issues?

I guess it’s more the idea that someone could adapt (notice I avoided the word steal)  my topic / plot line and turn it into something really good. Without me.

Or is that just another one of those silly little fears that everyone has but very few are unfortunate enough to experience?

Have any of you ever published a novel on-line?

If so what would you recommend?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cut,Copy and Paste

Those who can’t create…….

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I Feel Like An Aspie Cat (Cat With Asperger’s Syndrome)

Why do I feel like an Aspie Cat? Well it’s quite simple, or rather complex, depending on you understanding of computers, WordPress and blogging.

Please note that for me this means the answer must be quiet simple, as I have no grasp what so ever of the complexities of either amalgamating, programming or running data scripts.

So in Aspie Cat terms, my WordPress reader thingy isn’t working. This distresses me deeply.  I keep swatting at the like button on all the wonderful posts that I so enjoy reading, but the like icon refuses to stay to blue.

So I swat and sigh and clean  (do the dishes) instead. Then pop my head back up for another try.

But alas…. it’s just not working……  so I’ll just go off now and play with my mouse for a while…..

Or maybe  I’ll try and locate that lost ball of wool…..

Apparently it’s not the only thing with a thread loose…….

 

The Fine Art of Blog Commenting Creating A Commenting Policy

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I’ve decided that commenting on  blogs  is indeed an art form.

One that requires sensitivity, honesty, humor, gentleness  and most of all respect and understanding.

Comments have the power  to either attract others to your blog or turn them off completely. If you Let your blog  become a free for all for everyone else’s opinions or advertising links you may find that your  genuine readers will decline to post comments at all.

Good comments speak for themselves and can generate further thoughts and additional comments by others seeking to explore or understand the same issues.

Good comments also speak loudly for your blog.

They show that you are an authentic blogger who is genuinely interested in exploring issues respectfully and with integrity.

Bad comments on the other hand often mean that not only you, but your readers as well, will be forced to wade through endlessly irrelevant words that add nothing to the thoughts contained within your original post.

This can greatly dissuade other readers from commenting.

I don’t know about you, but often, if I have a comment that I would like to make on another’s post, but find that there are already 20 or so previous comments that have taken the issue off track, I will choose not to post a response.

Your blog readers may be as tired as you are of dealing with those who don’t think, or are abusing your  comments section either intentionally or unintentionally.

Your reader’s time is as precious to them  as yours is to you. So why make your readers have to wade through innocuous or irrelevant comments?

Especially when many readers won’t comment immediately after a superfluous or derogatory comment.

Bloggers are discerning readers and  they deserve to be able to read a comment thread that is free of abusive language and obtuse or rude comments.

One very important reason to keep your blog’s comments section clear and respectful is  that the better the content of the comments, the more integrity your blog has.

As such, the way in which you tend to your comments reflects you as a blogger.

So how do you keep your comments section clear and concise?

Creating a Commenting Policy

According to http://www.blogherald.com/2007/08/16/time-wasting-blog-comments-comments-policies-and-comment-etiquette/  commenting is an art form that you can encourage your readers to engage in thoughtfully by creating a Commenting Policy.

A commenting policy lists the conditions you expect commenters to abide by on your site.

So here are the top 3 things I would like commenters to abide by on my site.

Firstly please  take the time to read and understand the full  blog post before commenting.

Please stay on topic. Even if you disagree with something I’ve written and would like to give examples of counter opinions please do try to stay on track. I find comments that wander off into other areas confusing.

Please try to be respectful of others experiences and views at all times.

Commenting No No’s

Please do not leave comments that are filled with personal links.

I cannot stress this enough, so please do not fill the space I give you for your comments with links to your own blog site. Readers will be able to see who you are by your blog name when you make a  comment and they will decide for themselves by the quality of your comment whether or not they wish to look you up.

To be perfectly clear on this, my blog is the genuine expression of my own experiences and views. I would really appreciate it if you would treat is as such.

Top 3 things that may see your comment deleted.

Attacking other bloggers. Please do not  use my site to attack other bloggers.

By all means question my content if you feel the need too,  but I will not tolerate attacks on either myself or other bloggers.

Being overtly hostile toward or denigrating my views will also prevent me from posting your views.

Respect is a two-way street and there are a multitude of appropriate ways to challenge my perspectives. Being rude is not one of them.

To all those wonderful bloggers who regularly take the time to comment on my posts, please know that I welcome, appreciate and value your views.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this = )

 

How do you deal with uncomfortable comments?

Leave A Comment??????

Share With Me…..

Let Me Know What You Think…..

One thing I have noticed with blogging is that there are some bloggers who always seem to leave beautifully appropriate responses and others who seem to continuously attempt to challenge and in some cases denigrate the opinions or experiences expressed within original post.

Whilst I will always be open to genuine responses to my posts  that invite me to view my topics in a different light , I still find I have a problem with those  comments designed to hijack the overall intent of a post.

Especially when in doing  so  some individuals attempt to embed and reinforce their own individual views by insisting that their own didactic preferences are the only legitimate ways to properly discuss a topic.

I find that such responses make me feel incredibly uncomfortable and leave me wondering why on earth some commenter’s, who may feel strongly to the contrary regarding an issue I discuss, simply do not create a post of their own on the topic.

Rather than leaving me in a quandary as to whether or not I should approve their response or apply my own personal discretion and leave their responses un-aired?

The thing that bugs me about having to make such a decision is the knowledge that in choosing not to air another bloggers response I’m effectively censoring my blog.

This was an issue that I had never even considered when I first started blogging until it was brought home to me by the posting of a few comments that seemed either totally off track or sounded somewhere in the vicinity of hostile.

Now this may sound silly, but I simply did not know what to do with such comments when I first started.

Over time I’ve discovered that you can edit the responses of another and occasionally I will choose to do this if the response is primarily appropriate with a just a few potentially insulting words. On the whole though, I would prefer not to have to do this.

The other option of course is simply ‘trashing’ the comment all together. Once again this is another choice that makes me feel uncomfortable but I’ve decided that airing a comment that I myself find offensive serves no one.

Least of all me and it is my blog.

There are few enough spaces in this world where my wants and sense of propriety are taken into account. For me blogging allows a space in which to do this. If that means leaving out a few comments here and there, then I am willing to do this to maintain the integrity of my blog of as a whole.

Does anyone else out there in the blogosphere find it disturbing when faced with the dilemma of what to do with a blog comment that makes you feel comfortable?

How do you deal with it?

 

Blog Award Thanks For Writing

Thank you so much to the lovely Soumyav at http://soumyav.wordpress.com/ , Cloudbourne at  http://cloudborne.wordpress.com/ and Melody at http://melodylowes.com/ for  honoring me with this beautiful award.

For those of you who are yet to experience the wonderfully powerful poetry of Soumyav I encourage you to pop in and check out her blog.

Soumyav’s words and kindness of heart show through in every post that she shares.

I would also encourage you to share in the power of cloudbornes and melodylowes poetry and writing.

I’d also like to share the love by nominating a few amazing bloggers whose posts regularly touch my heart.

http://threepuzzlepieces.wordpress.com/

http://autisticson.wordpress.com/

http://mindretrofit7.wordpress.com/

http://fivereflections.wordpress.com/

http://specialneedsjungle.com/

http://rlbk75.wordpress.com/

http://itsallinadaysinsanity.wordpress.com/

http://carlarenee45.wordpress.com/

As always there are far too many talented bloggers to nominate in just one post.

Luckily for me I have been fortunate enough to receive a few other blog awards so over the next few weeks I will be posting and nominating as many wonderful bloggers as I can.  

Thank you once again to soumyav , cloudborne and melodylowes  for honoring me by sharing the love with this award <3